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From conflict and grudge-busting to trust and transformation, how Lee Elliott helps create a strategy for creating a Wonderful Life.  

Topic 1: High quality conflict

Participants learn:

  • Communication skills necessary for high quality conflict; emphasis is on listening skills and on identifying the motivational forces driving the conflict
  • Dynamics of conflict as well as a “roadmap” they might use to understand the process of conflict
  • Tools that can be used to enhance conflict (e.g., softening emotions, reframing)
  • How to evaluate the quality of a conflict and how to use past conflicts to improve future conflicts

Topic 2: Grudge busting

Participants learn:

  • The difference between forgiving and pardoning
  • The cause of conflict
  • How to make changes in thinking that will reduce conflict
  • How to reduce residual hard feelings and thereby reduce frequency and intensity of future conflict–simple changes can lead to a 50% reduction in conflict
  • Tools to use to forgive and to find a sense of peace

Topic 3: Happiness

Participants learn:

  • What does and does not impact happiness (some real surprises)
  • Many ways to increase happiness, such as:
    • Making friends
    • Benevolence–the ultimate kindness
    • The power of counting your blessings
  • The role that “the pursuit of goodness” plays in enhancing our happiness

Topic 4: Trust

Participants learn:

  • The essential elements to being trustworthy
  • How to build trust, how to destroy trust, and how to rebuild trust
  • Relationships exist only to the extent that there is trust
  • Trust is an essential element of effective business
  • The critical role trust plays in marriage
  • Ways to substantially strengthen marriage

Topic 5: Resilience and hope

Participants learn:

  • The incredible importance of a positive emotion; the destructive capacity of a negative emotion
  • Every strength we have is based on resilience–no resilience, game is over
  • Errors that occur in our thinking produce our most intense negative emotions
  • Fixing errors in thinking is not especially difficult and has significant benefit
  • How to build hope
  • How to raise resilient children–the protective factors

Topic 6: Stress management, minimize the destruction

Participants learn:

  • We are not built for the world we live in
  • We are experiencing a stress-induced health epidemic
  • Stress is our leading cause of poor health
  • Stress not only diminishes our health, it diminishes our peace of mind
  • Our children are struggling with stress
  • We can substantially change the amount of stress we experience–and do so with little effort

Topic 7: On being a good person

Participants learn:

  • We progress through stages as we become increasingly moral–and almost everyone stops somewhere along the way–most of us don’t reach levels of moral reasoning that are available to us
  • Many of our disagreements about what is “right” come from being at different levels of moral development
  • What science is saying constitutes “good”–and how being good substantially increased our happiness
  • Social psychological forces in our world lead us to engage in extremely bad behavior–and good people can very easily be led to engage in evil

Topic 8: Fulfillment

Participants learn:

  • It appears that a great many come to the end of life with a sense of meaninglessness–their lives seem insignificant, they didn’t matter
  • There are things we can do to reduce the likelihood that we will conclude our lives feeling irrelevant
  • The relationship between fulfillment and spirituality (not necessarily religion)
  • What can we do to achieve a state of fulfillment
  • How the field of economics has changed to reflect greater understanding of people–and that better reflects our desire to make a contribution 
  • Why so many employers have identified spirituality as the top “mega-trend”
  • Finding a calling at work–and meaningfulness
  • The powerful impact on business of understanding people and spirituality
  • What can we learn from spiritually exceptional people in our quest for fulfillment

Topic 9: Transformational change

Participants learn:

  • Research has shown most change efforts just don’t work
  • What the “masters” in history have shown to be the most effective approach to change
  • If we are to have a meaningful life, we must transform
  • How to make change that is transformational
  • How to overcome barriers to transformational change

Topic 10: Strategic plan for your life

Participants learn:

  • How to form a strategy for your life so that you can have a meaningful, fulfilling, WONDERFUL life
  • How to optimize the time you have left
  • How to avoid the “five regrets of the dying”
  • How to create a personal mission statement
  • How to face the end of rest of your life with anticipation, with hope, with some reasonable degree of delight

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Lee Elliott | Business Consultant

Sioux City, Iowa